THE TRUTH

the other nite t and i got into a discussion about my friend angie. she always asks her hubby if its okay with him b4 she goes out. she'll ask him if he's got anything else goin on or if he cares....which inevitably he doesnt but i dont do that sort of thing with t. i told him that i will NEVER ask permission to go do my thing. this ofcourse gets him fired up. he cs it as a sign of respect between the 2 of them and says it troubles him that i wouldnt respect him enough to do the same. its one thing for me to say hey im goin out with so-n-so, its something else for me to ask if i can. the conversation then proceeds to get into what if he didnt tell me who hes goin out with and where and then comes home smellin like perfume. BUT the reason he smells like perfume is b/c one of his friends had his gf tag along and she was wearing a strong perfume. hmmm, well ive never experienced a scent transfer unless me or the other person were rubbin up on each other. whole other issue there, the point is that if he didnt tell me basic info to begin with i would jump to conclusions when he got home. i told him that i believe its a universal truth among chics that no matter how "cool" ur gf may b there will b a part of her that will always wanna get catty when she hears about another chic. now whether or not she acts on it is the determining factor as to how "cool" she is. ;) he thinks its a double standard that chics want to know all the details if their man is goin out but chics wont do the same. personally, i have NEVER grilled him about who he's with or where he's goin. have i in the past? with my x, hell yeah, but i had very good reason to b suspect and question the situation. do i think its a good idea to let ur significant other know whats up? OFCOURSE, id b pretty worried if i came home and t was gone with no note saying he went out. and i do the same for him. being respectful is different than being controlling.