heres an update about my x......he has finally caught the car payments up and so that makes everything that i had planned with my attorney a waste of money, so i cancelled those plans. and it also means that the repossession the bank was goin to do a waste......damn! i know a repo on my credit wouldnt have looked very good but he doesnt deserve to have that car. in the mean time i have done research on my credit and got very disappointed and depressed that all the hard work i have done to pay my bills on time thru the yrs has gone down the drain in a matter of a few months. makes me consider havin a pre-nup and never buying anything with a spouse again in the future! grrrrr.
on a different note, i spent some time with tim and mandy again this weekend. actually tim and i were supposed to have a date, but mandy called with some bad news and i HAD to have her over cause i couldnt just let her b by herself. now i wont tell ya what the bad news is, she'll have to do that......but im glad that i can b here for her and that tim understood the need to b a friend at that moment.
i also finally got to talk to hoochie mama! yay! :) shes doin aight and she'll b comin home next weekend......woohoo! the ratpack is gettin together! i always enjoy those times. even this weekend i told mandy and tim that i love that i have such good friends to share my time with. makes life a little more bearable when u have ppl u love and that love u.
speakin of love.........y'all know that valentines day is comin up?!?! i know i know, just another hallmark holiday!!! i dont typically "celebrate" this day, partially b/c my x husband never bought into it and partially b/c its really a day for chics. seriously, do u guys dig gettin chocolate or flowers or havin a special nite planned???? exactly what r chics supposed to do or get their sweetheart for v-day???? i have no clue, i usually only gave a card to at least show that i was aware of the day and that yeah i cared. is that enough? guys, i need a lil help on this one.........any input????
so thats life for me for right now. go to work, pay the bills and b a friend. simple, but it works. ;) more later...........
4 comments:
Wow sounds like u have a real problem with your x and just want to get back at him. Don't get me wrong i was married to a real ass but once we got divorced I let it go and started a new life. U should do the same and move on. With the car situation have hime refinance in his name and if he don't want to do that then make him sell it if your divorced then u don't have to leave the car in both your names trust me on that one been there done it.
My best advice to u would be to forget that he was ever in your life. [I know it's hard but u can do it}. Move on and start over and don't let what little pride u have be destroyed by an ass of a man. And don't let that same man destroy the feeling that a man and a women should share after marrage like bying things together and things like that just be more carefull who u marry and date. sorry if it sounds bad but like i said i was once married and i had to do the same thing and it is hard but i can now do it and look back on my x and laugh. But i do have to thank my x for teaching me that some men are real jack asses just like i'm now one hell of a person and i owe it all to him for making me stronger and wiser!!!!!!!! Good luck and hope things get better for u. DON'T LET NO MAN BRING U DOWN!!!!!
TO THE ABOVE ANONYMOUS.....yeah i have a real problem with my x....hes irresponsible! HA! theres not an issue as far as me "movin on", cause i have long been over him. the issue is that he refuses to do anything---ie, make the payment or refinance the car. and thats the catch in all of this....u cant make anyone do anything. so im left dealin with whatever aftermath he leaves me. i appreciate ur attempt at sound advice, but ur not tellin me anything i dont already know or have heard!
Amen to prenups! I mean, look at the statistics. Chance are that marriage today ends up in divorce more than half the time. Thats a pretty shitty turnover rate. As much as I'd like to hope the girl I marry will be the one I stick with I wouldn't bet all my money (or even half) on it. It isn't like at least most of the marriages that end in divorce started that way, I'm sure they all thought it would last forever.
Supposing something does happen, or things just don't work, what are the chances of it ending well? Even if half of divorces end well, that means you have a 25% chance of your marriage ending up in a crappy divorce. Not great odds in a game that you are betting your future and , without a prenup, your finances on.
The only arguments I have heard against it is that it isn't romantic or it shows a lack of trust. I think that if anything it demonstrates more trust. The richer of the spouses would be able to trust that the other was marrying them for their finances, and the other would be showing that they trust the other won't leave them high and dry. I think the romance idea is a result of taking too narrow a view of the implications of marriage (i.e. the whole sharing children and money and credit and property thing).
Bummer your marriage didn't work out, better luck next time. Tell your ex to grow a set and get off his ass. I'm sure you have before, but that really sucks that he's screwing you by being a fuckin' bum.
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Actually if u are now divorced and the car is in both of your names and one wants off the other has the chance to buy it from u or sell it and u do have the right to have your name taken off. I do know this because I just went threw it 5 months ago. My x has the car and was late on 4 payments and they came after me so I got an attorney and told them that I wanted my name taken off we are divorced and I don't don't want it in my name sense he has it. It took a few months to do it but the car is finally in his name and the creditors are not calling me anymore.
I don't blaim u one but for being bitter at all that has gone on. I was once too but all it did was make me more angry. I'm glad to hear that u moved on it's harder for some to move on but we all have to do it. And when the x dose things to try and keep u around it's the worst. Sorry if I sounded off in the first post I didn't mean to at all. Good luck in all u do and may god be with u through all this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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