Sunday, February 20, 2005
Homosexuality race and gender....
I am not sure why I feel I need to type this but for some reason I do. It seems like everyone in world just has problems with things that are a little different. Homosexuality, race, gender... I know that I have my issues with some of that, but I am tryingto be more open minded. I just want everyone to get along. The only way I see it happening is if people are open minded. A few days ago I was talking to this guy and decided to ask questions about like would he let a guy suck him off and other similar questions and he was just like no, i am not into that. I was trying to be like it doesn't matter, plus he would probably know how to do it better. I totally understand where he is coming from but i just wish I could figure out a way to approach it better or at least get him to think about it before answering. Then being home race takes on a whole new meaning to people. Like the n word is no big deal and it is a big deal to me. I guess I just didn't really know it. I know why people around here use it but i still have a really hard time grasping how they could use a word that can cause pain to someone. And finally gender, I know most of you think it isn't a big deal, but for me it is. I am female. It is probably the first thing to define me. I used to really hate when people called me a bitch and in a way it still stirs up stuff inside me. I guess that's why I wish people would at least be aware that what you say can cause pain and not only that but try to not cause pain. Sorry if that doesn't make sense. Good night.
2 comments:
i think that theres discrimination of many things b/c
1. some ppl r not open minded
2. alot of ppl do not like "different"
3. b/c of not liking different, ppl r scared of change
we r creatures of habit and anything out of the ordinary can b frightening to anyone. it takes someone willing to embrace differences, uniqueness and change to have an open mind. sometimes that hinges on where and how u were raised. personally, i think how u end up treating other ppl is all based on how u were raised, what u were taught and ur familys values. i agree hoochie mama, more of us need to b very aware of what we do and say and the consequences it will have. we dont live in a society where we all have our own "bubbles" and they never collide with anyone else. everything we do directly or indirectly effects someone else....whether the person its effecting is present or not. one of my favorite sayings is....everything u do will come back to u.
I think a big part of how people perceive things in life is how they were raised and how their family reacted to different situations. For instance, lets say that your family was really racist. A lot of the time, the children from that household would continue to be racist because that's how they perceived life to be growing up. Now, there are those instances when the children do come out of that household, on their own, and know that racism, gender, homosexuality, what have you, is different than how they were brought up to believe.
Maybe the way you approached this guy caught him off guard. You said that you would rather have him think about the question before he answers it. Maybe if you asked him if he's ever considered such things or thought about them instead of asking if he'd let another guy do whatever, he might answer differently.
Just a question for you..have you ever considered a girl doing things to you or letting a girl do things to you? I thought that by how you said you were trying to tell the guy it didn't matter and that he could probably do it better, you might have experience with such things?
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